What is YOUR Role?
Level 5: Master Player
"Can I give you a piece of unsolicited advice?"
"I say this with all the love. Stop trying to be the savior."
I think I was silent for a whole minute after that.
So few words rippled through the fabric of my memories pinpointing the frame and perspective I had in every relationship both personal and work.
I had to be the savior.
I had to come in like the white knight and make everything better again. To take broken people and systems and turn them into goodness and greatness.
Maybe I was afraid my presence in working systems, and with working people would break them so working with already broken things meant no risk. Maybe I feared the opposite. And going into something broken gave me the opportunity to show that I was good and right and just, and if it didn't work ... I wouldn't know.
Maybe I was broken. And because we're all mirrors1, trying to fix someone else or something else felt easier than trying to fix myself. If I could see the good I did for them, I must be good also.
That lack of self awareness ... not knowing who I really am and how I best play my own game DID have an impact.
But there was something else I was missing.
One of the greatest mistakes we make in life is likely something most people never fully see.
In order to see this, you must have clarity of yourself. You must be able to look into the mirror and see both yourself fully, as well as the person you are looking at.
To explain this mistake and, instead of experiencing the downside of it, turn it into a strength ...